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Beloved Bride Study Week 1

This is posted for those who wish to participate in the Beloved Bride study.

Beloved Bride is a seven-week bible study that allow a woman to become an active participant in her own wedding to Jesus as she parallels the steps from an ancient Hebrew wedding to her own spiritual journey.

To be loved by Jesus is our greatest identity and challenge Beloved Bride helps women understand who she is as defined by the One who married her and what happened when he married her. If we don’t understand what Jesus truly did in fulfilling his covenant to us, how can we truly know who we are?  Beloved Bride is a timely study that allows readers to explore the deeper meanings behind many of Christ’s actions during his earthly ministry.

The study leads readers down their own individual wedding aisle with Jesus while also helping them beautifully understand how he fulfilled His marriage covenant, which includes prophetic glimpses into those parts of the wedding that have not occurred yet. This study is intensely personal, biblical, prophetic and life changing. This study is like having a personal invitation from Jesus saying, “will you marry me?” signed in His blood.

It is my intense honor to present you with week one of Beloved Bride, beginning with important terms and Hebrew wedding concepts.

I will post week two next week.


God bless you,



B’rit: covenant (sealed in blood), Old Testament


B’rit Hadashah: New Covenant, Tanakh, sealed in Christ’s blood


Kidushin: betrothal period (think of Mary and Joseph), this is the name given for the period of time after the 1st part of the wedding takes place as the bride waits for the second part to begin. It usually lasts anywhere from one to two years; however no one knows when the second part will begin except the groom’s father. The father watches over the son as he builds the dwelling place for his bride and the father determines when that dwelling is ready and complete as he announces to his son, “Go get your bride,” once his desired completion for the dwelling is finished by his son.


Da’at: I do, the bride has the ability to give her consent or reject the wedding proposal. Her father calls her and asks for her consent as the father of the groom and his son approach the father of the bride to ask for her hand. The Holy Spirit calls for us and asks for our consent. Whether we accept this wedding proposal or not is up to the bride, should she consent, she gives her Da’at, her “I do” and seals this by sharing a cup with her bridegroom.


Ketubah: wedding contract. This is presented to the bride on her wedding day and signed at the second part of the wedding by the bride. It is the bridegroom’s covenant to his bride, displaying all the promise he intends to her as well as his assuming full responsibility for her body, soul and spirit. All of who she is will be transferred upon his shoulders should she accept his covenant promise to her. Our Ketubah is God’s Word, His New Covenant to us as written in the New Testament.


Mohar: Bride Price. This is what is cost the bridegroom’s father to purchase the bride. It is indicative of the value the father and son saw in the bride. Our Mohar is the blood of Christ, the Father’s Son. It was the highest price paid for the Father sees the true value in each of us.


Ka’lal: Bride or “set apart one.” Once sealed during the first portion of the wedding ceremony, the bride wears a veil over her face in public as a demonstration that she has been “set apart” for betrothal. We are “set apart” in Christ, sealed through His Holy Spirit through Whom we are able to demonstrate to the world that we are taken and betrothed to Christ, sealed for His glory.

Mikvah: Hebrew for baptism (more precisely, immersion). This is the bride’s time for beautification. Jewish family tradition states that a woman is to re-do this each month after her cycle, as she becomes “new” again for her husband. The bride is to be fully submerged in a living body of water, symbolizing her new birth. Her first mikvah takes place before the second portion of the wedding begins. Our mikvah is our baptism as we are washed away from our old life and cleansed and made new in Christ. He also washes us in His Word throughout our journey with Him. He is our Living Water as we walk beside Him as His bride.


Chadar (Kadar): wedding chamber. This is presented in the second portion of the wedding. It is the bride’s house that the bridegroom has added on to his father’s house. It is what he was building while his wife was in her time of preparation and waiting. Jesus is working on this right now as He is building His church (Bride), while at the same time in heaven building a literal place for us to dwell eternally with Him.


Aperion: The bridal litter. This was a special carriage that was prepared for the bride, carried on the backs of groomsman, it transported the bride to her awaiting bridegroom at the call of the groom’s father as the second portion of the wedding begins. She literally meets her groom in the air. For us, this gives reference to the Rapture of Christ’s church, His Bride.


The Huppah: The original meaning is room or covering. It is where the bride and groom will enter to consummate their marriage and where they will stay for seven days as they “yada” (get to know one another intimately) for the first time. Perhaps this is where we will spend seven years with our Bridegroom/ King just after the rapture as we finally get to know Him face to face.

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Beloved Bride Week 1 

A New Name


Day 1


“Jacob went on his way, and the angels of God met him. And when Jacob saw them he said, “This is God’s camp!” So he called the name of the place Mahanaim.” Genesis 32:1-2

“Then the LORD said to Moses, Tell the people of Israel to turn back and emcamp in front of Pi-hahiroth, between Migdol and the sea, infront of Baal-zephon; you shall emcamp facing it, by the sea.” Exodus 14:1-2


We learned this week what the word Mahanaim means; God’s camp on earth.


Please take moment and write in your name in the statement below.


______________________ is God’s camp on earth.


As you look at the words above, what does that mean to you?  What does it look like in your life to be God’s camp on earth?   Share below





First of all, I don’t know about you, but outside of smores, I HATE camping!  In fact, the very mention of the word fills my mind with memories of stuffy tents, smelly, wet sneakers, the scent of bug spray mixed with the sting of smoke in my eyes.  Perhaps, even worse are the complications that arise when we must go without our modern conveniences; such as A RESTROOM.  During our last camping trip, our site was nearly a half-mile from the nearest bathroom.  To make matters worse, we were staying near the water, which meant that there were no trees to take cover in should an “emergency” arise.

Needless to say, my anxiety over my distance from the restroom did not afford me any rest.  Nope, camping is not a restful experience….at least for this suburb mom.


Considering the above description of my love for camping, I bet you won’t be surprised to find out that I have NEVER once initiated a camping trip.  Any camping trip I have ever been on has NOT been my idea.  Camping is just NOT my idea of a vacation.


In Genesis 32:1-2, it states the Jacob was, “on his way,” what happened to cause him to name the place he was standing, God’s camp?



Would you say that Jacob was initiating this encounter or responding to it?  Explain



In Exodus 14:1-2, Who is planning this first “camping trip” for the Israelites?



In verses 3-4, God tells Moses, “For Pharaoh will say of the people of Israel, ‘They are wandering in the land; the wilderness has shut them in.  And I will harden Pharaoh’s heart, and he will pursue them, and I will get the glory over Pharaoh and all his host, and the Egyptians shall know that I am the LORD.  And they did so.”


Beloved, you may not understand this “camping” trip that you are on, you may even feel like turning around and heading back to Egypt more times than you care to mention.  However, one of the very first steps in becoming who we are meant to be as Christ’s Bride is to know WHO has initiated this whole thing.


I have known many women who have felt forced into marriage, whether it is through an unplanned pregnancy, or an inability to own one’s boundaries before entering into that covenant agreement, or just plain insecurity that caused her to manipulate herself into a wedding band.  Whatever the case has been, there are times later in the marriage where she will doubt herself, her marriage, and her husband.  She will often wonder, “did he marry me because he HAD to, or because he WANTED to?”    I can assure you Beloved, Jesus WANTED to marry you.  Perfect Love, the only perfect Man that exists in all creation looked at you and decided that He would rather die than to live without you.

You are His Beloved, His camp on earth.  However hard, whatever it takes, He will never stop loving you.


In Revelation 21:6, Jesus says, “It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.”  As we saw earlier in our study, Jesus is the initiator of this relationship with you.  And as hard as this camping trip may become at times, He is also the conclusion of it, the beginning and the end.  He is your beginning and your end.


Let’s take a moment here to affirm this truth, write your name in the blank space below




Not long ago I was very ill.  In truth, I was so ill that there were times when no one (including me) knew if I would survive.  This was a huge time of testing for me.  There were times when I became so anxious and afraid.  One instance I remember crying out to the LORD and asking Him to prepare me for what was to come.  If I were going to die, I wanted to know and to become ready. I would throw His word back up to Him, “Jesus, You said that You would be the lamp unto my feet and the light to my path!”  And then I would yell out my list of how all the things that I was experiencing led to my uncertainty.  I felt very much like I was in the dark.  I will never forget the morning when He confronted me about this.  He reminded me about His words in Deuteronomy 30:19-20, “I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse.  Therefore choose life that you and your offspring may live, loving the LORD your God, obeying His voice and holding fast to Him, for He is your life and length of days…”   I knew at that moment what He was saying to me, “Rhonda, why do you concern yourself with whether you will live or die?  The questions that you are asking were already answered the minute you gave your heart to Me.  You will live Rhonda.  What is it to you if your earthly life ends next week or 100 years from now?  You are Mine!  I am your life and your length of days so no matter what happens on earth. I have already secured a “Happy Ending” for you.”


Is there any area in your life where Jesus may be confronting you to forcefully choose LIFE right now?  Explain.




And, no matter what you are facing right now Beloved, He has already secured a happy ending for you.


Let’s close by writing a prayer of thanks to our Beloved for beginning this journey with us, as well as already securing us a happy ending.


 Day 2


“And the messengers returned to Jacob saying, “We came to your brother Esau, and he is coming to meet you, and there are four hundred men with him.” Then Jacob was greatly afraid and distressed. He divided the people who were with him, and the flocks and herds and camels, into two camps, thinking, “If Esau comes to one camp and attacks it, then the camp that is left will escape.” Genesis 32:6-8


For we know that if the tent, which is our earthly home, is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.  For in this tent we groan, longing to put on our heavenly dwelling” 2 Corinthians 5:1-2


I am reading a book on marriage right now, and last night came across a comment that really intrigued me.  The comment is from the book, Boundaries in Marriage, and it reads, “you must become a complete individual on your own in order to have true oneness with your spouse.”  (Cloud and Townsend, pg91).  I laughed as I read the comment above and thought to myself, “how in the world does one become complete on their own?” If I had waited until I was complete to marry my husband, I would have never married.  It has taken marriage to point out to me, like a beaming spotlight, all my areas of incompleteness.


Like Jacob on his way to face the fears of his past, we sometimes need “messengers” to come and tell us where we stand in our journey.  And also, like Jacob, once they come, we often become greatly distressed, and divided.


What has been your greatest journey through fear so far in your life?  How did you respond to it?




It is ironic that in our human nature, when faced with the most challenging times in our lives, instead of standing in solidarity, we often instead choose to split in weakness. Like Jacob, perhaps we perceive that if we can escape with a little, it is better than losing everything.   So often in our relationships, we respond out of our fractures instead of our fullness in Christ.


Counselors will say that if two people who are not whole marry, they seek to complete one another.  Therefore, creating stunted growth in both persons.


What does Colossians 2:9-10 say?  Please record the scripture below.




I love how the New King James Version states it, “For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power” (emphasis mine)


Considering this scripture, Beloved, where is your completeness found?




I will never forget the first time these words really stuck in my heart.  I was working out at the gym and had brought my scripture memory cards with me to review while I was working out.  As a victim of childhood abuse, I have had to go through so much healing.  I had just spent that morning praying and asking the LORD if I could ever be whole after all that I had been through.  It just seemed hopeless at times and I was feeling discouraged.  For some reason these words came alive to me at the gym that morning and as God so often does in His Word, it cut through me like a double-edged sword.  I remember saying out loud, “you mean I can be whole and complete, God?”  And I heard His voice reply to me, “If you want to.”  All this time, those words had been there, and He was only waiting for me to believe them and to allow the Truth of His completeness to cover over the fractured and broken truth of my past.


Is there a part of you (past or present} that is feeling fractured right now?  Explain.





In what ways might Jesus be asking you to exchange your fracture for His wholeness? 





We can spend our lives striving to become whole or we can surrender our search to the One Who already made us whole. Sometimes it takes seeing our fractures and letting them break our hearts before we are ready to make the exchange that will heal them.


Beloved, this is a camping trip, it’s difficult, beautiful and yet temporary.


How do you define camping?




This place may feel like home, but it is not our home.





Look up the following verses and record what they say about our “real” home


John 14:2-3




John 14;23




2 Corinthians 5:6




Let’s read 2 Corinthians 5:1-2 “For we know that if the tent, which is our earthly home, is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.  For in this tent we groan, longing to put on our heavenly dwelling”


What word is used to describe our earthly bodies? 



In your own words, describe what a tent is



You, Beloved, were created to be indwelt by the Spirit of the living God!


As much as I do not enjoy camping, there is something so precious about the image of Jesus walking around our campsite, not only guarding the site from any harm, but peeping into each tent, lifting up the face of each one inside, initiating intimate conversations, the kind that are most meaningful and most beautiful while shared near a crackling camp fire.


Is there something on your heart that you wish you could talk to Him about right now?  If so, why not set this study aside and open your heart to Him?


This is what you were created for sweet one! You were created for Jesus.  Your tent, your body, aches to be indwelt by Life Himself.  And if we allow ourselves to become at home in this world, we will begin to feel the fractures of it.  However, Christ has invited you to live in a place with Him where there is wholeness, the only true place that it exists in this world.


Remember this quote, “you must become a complete individual on your own in order to have true oneness with your spouse.”  (Cloud and Townsend, pg91).  Only Christ can take a fractured heart and exchange it for a whole one.  And until we belong to him, we are not truly able to fully belong to anyone.



Day 3


“And the messengers returned to Jacob, saying, “We came to your brother Esau, and he is coming to meet you, and there are four hundred men with him.” Genesis 32:6


“The Egyptians pursued them, all Pharaoh’s horses and chariots and his horsemen, and his army, and overtook them encamped at the sea, by Pi-hahiroth, in front of Baalzephon.” Exodus 14:9



I got up this morning determined to have a wonderful day.  I had a wonderful quiet time, great coffee, cool weather, and nice cozy robe.  I was determined to not let the hustle and bustle that was about to take place when everyone woke up challenge me. I was going to stay in the Joy of the LORD, NO MATTER WHAT!


That all changed when, within a 30 minute window of time, our puppy had three accidents in the house, glass from a bottle of special barbeque sauce that I dropped broke cutting one of my girls on her leg, my son began hounding me about some things that I had not taken care of for him, I burned the eggs I was trying to cook for breakfast, and could not find the leggings that my daughter was insisting on wearing to school.  It didn’t take long for my plans for a “wonderful day” to dwindle down to some desperate prayers, “Jesus, just please help me survive today!”


Just like we saw from our lesson this week, we can start off on “our way”, but it doesn’t take long for us to realize that we need some “angels of the LORD” to meet us because we need some HELP!


The first mentions of the word “camp” in God’s Word is found in Exodus 14:2 and in verse 9 where it says, “The Egyptians pursued them, all Pharaoh’s horses and chariots and his horsemen, and his army, and overtook them encamped at the sea, by Pi-hahiroth, in front of Baalzephon.”

I love it that here we see the word “camp” mentioned in association with the Israelite’s freedom.  They had just left Egypt, where they had been slaves for more than 400 years.  Before they even had the chance to experience what “freedom” felt like, here comes Pharaoh with all his army!


Look up Exodus 14:10-12, how did the Israelites respond when they saw this great army coming towards them?



When was the last time you felt as if a whole army was coming to overtake you?




How did you respond?


Is it because there are no graves in Egypt that you have taken us away to die in the wilderness?  What have you done to us in bringing us out of Egypt?” Exodus 14:11


Have you ever felt baffled by the path God has chosen for you?  Explain




One of the hardest parts, in my opinion, about following Christ is knowing that I will never fully arrive at my destination while in the flesh.  Just when I think I have ‘arrived’ at one victory; I seem to be headed out to another battlefield.

However, I take great comfort in knowing that, although I will not arrive at my final home until this earthly life is over, God has chosen to call me His Mahanaim, His camp on earth.  The greatest part of my everlasting destination is already here!  Jesus is camping with each of us through this whole journey and ultimately, isn’t He what we long for most about heaven anyway?


What about you, what has been the hardest part for you about following Christ?





Has there been a time you felt like you would rather go back to Egypt than face another day headed towards the Promised Land? 




So often, just like the Israelites, we get overwhelmed when trying to live in the FREEDOM that Christ has given us.  Just as soon as we become free, it seems as if a whole army is coming towards us to “kill us in the wilderness.”


Perhaps, we are like the Israelites and like Jacob who fall into despair when we see our captors coming for us, when we hear the wheels of the chariots that threaten to overtake us, and when we feel the same terror that we have associated with these sights and sounds.  Our propensity is to panic when we feel greatly threatened.


God did not waste any time in showing the Israelites, or Jacob whose responsibility it was to fight against any threat to His people.  Before the Israelites could even begin to celebrate their newfound freedom, God orchestrated one of the greatest displays in all the Bible of His amazing ability to watch over and to protect His own through the crossing of the Red Sea.


Read Genesis 32:13-31 and record any special insights below




We will camp the rest of the week in these verses.  Just as God initiated a divine wrestling match with Jacob, and just as He led the Israelites on a 40 year long “wrestling match” through the wilderness of their own hearts, so He will never stop wrestling against anything that stands in the way of our identity in Himself.   Remember Beloved, He began this camping trip with you, and He will see you through to the end.


Day 4


“And you shall say, Moreover, your servant Jacob is behind us.” For He thought, “I may appease him with the present that goes ahead of me, and afterward I shall see his face.  Perhaps he will accept me.” Genesis 32:20


“Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousands of rivers of oil?  Shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you, but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:7-8


I will never forget the sleepless night I spent before my wedding day.  Talk about a wrestling match!  If anything, we might expect a bride to be sleepless due to the nervous excitement about what her new life was about to become.  However, it was not nerves or excitement that was keeping this bride to be sleepless, it was FEAR!  I had been a single mom, a divorced mom of two, and had enough baggage to start my own UPS company.  And I was about to marry a man who grew up in the perfect family, with the perfect track record, no baggage that I could see, and no ex-wife and kids.  What in the world did he see in me?  I knew what I was, and I also knew that I had no idea how to become who I was going to need to become for this work out well.


I find so much comfort in scripture, especially my ability to relate to such patriarchs as Jacob, a man who wrestled with God.  Like Jacob sending the gifts ahead of him in order to try and appease what laid behind him (his deception of his brother), I had put my best foot forward , trusting in this relationship, hoping and praying that  Jesus truly would cover over all of my past.


The Hebrew definition for the word “appease” used here means; to cover his face, or to cover one’s guilt.    Jacob was sending the gifts ahead of him in hopes that his brother might accept the gifts and relent exacting revenge on him.


We often do the same. So often I find myself treating my children to ice cream, or a trip to some place fun after being in a grumpy mood.  Or how about this one, starting a diet on Monday after a weekend binge on junk food.  There are countless ways we each try to “cover our face” when we have a guilty conscience.


What are some ways that you tend to “cover your face” when you have a guilty conscience?




So often we use our “covers” to try and appease God.  I know many people who felt condemnation regarding sexual sin before they were married.  They felt that marriage would “cover over” that sin.  Also, like me, there have been women who have the sin of abortion in their past, who felt that having children would “cover over” that past sin.


 What are some other ways that we use our “covers” to try and appease God?





Reflect again on the verse below…

“And you shall say, Moreover, your servant Jacob is behind us.” For He thought, “I may appease him with the present that goes ahead of me, and afterward I shall see his face.  Perhaps he will accept me.” Genesis 32:20


Jacob was sending that which he possessed that was of value “ahead of him” in order to try and appease his brother.  In your own life, what do you see as valuable about yourself?




In what ways might you try and use these traits or possessions to “go before you?” 





So often we equate God with man.  Man so often judges others based on what he sees as value in himself. However, God is not man.   1 Samuel 16:7 says, “For the LORD sees not as man sees; man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

So often we don’t even take the time to examine what is in our own hearts, nor the hearts of others.  However, God knows us, intimately knows us.  There is never a moment when he judges us based on what we place before us, or behind us.  He is always aware of exactly what is going on in our heart.


If you could name your camp right now based on what is going on in your heart, what would it be called? 




“Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousands of rivers of oil?  Shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you, but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:7-8


Based on the verse above, what does the LORD require of us?




What offerings (or covers) are mentioned that He does not require of us?



Which seems easier to give?  What He requires or what we think He requires?




Why is it so difficult to give to God what He actually requires?  What does that say about us?




I mentioned at the beginning of our lesson today that I was terrified the night before my wedding.  I knew what I was, and I knew that I did not have what it was going to take for me to be who I needed to be for this to work.  I will never forget the flood of relief that washed over me the minute I finally spoke those two words, “I do.”  It was a moment of surrender.  By faith, I stood before the man that I love, knowing that I did not have what it was going to take to be his wife.  My “do” was based on the One, my Beloved Jesus, who had already “done” all that was required for me to be able to become all I would ever need in this life.

“When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, “It is finished,” and he bowed his head and gave up His spirit.” John 19:30


As we close, is there any “do” in your life that you would like to exchange for Christ’s “done” at the Cross?  Why not take this moment and record a prayer of surrender here.


Day 5


“Then he said, “Let me go, for the day has broken.” But Jacob said, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.  And he said to him, “What is your name?” And he said, “Jacob.” Genesis 32:26-27


“So Jacob called the name of this place Peniel, saying, For I have seen God face to face, and yet my life has been delivered.” Genesis 32:30


Yesterday we talked about how we, along with Jacob, try to provide coverings for our face to go before us when we have a guilty conscience.  Today we will discover what happens when those coverings are wrestled off us, and we must stand face to face before God.  For some of us Brides, it takes a wrestling match with Christ to remove the old name, so that He can make us ready to wear our new one.


Look back over Genesis 32:22-33.  Record any new insights or questions below.



You may find yourself wondering, “who was that masked man?”  However, we find in Genesis 32:30 that Jacob names the place where this wrestling match occurred after who he was wrestling with; “I have seen God face to face.”  Many bible scholars assume that this man was a theophany; a visible (and in this case tangible) manifestation of God.

Three things stand out as remarkable to me as we look more into what is occurring here and how it might apply to our lives.


  1. We know that God is much stronger than man, but we see here that God is accommodating to Jacob’s weakness as they wrestle it out. Psalm 103:14 says, “He knows our frame, He remembers that we are dust.” How precious it is that God understands our weakness, and even gets down to wrestle with us over our struggles.  We don’t have to be afraid to bring our doubts to Him. Unlike man, who often attacks when confronted, God will allow us to wrestle it out with Him. He will never let go of us.


When was the last time you had something you felt you needed to “wrestle” with God about?  Did you feel that you had the freedom to do so?  Please share below about it.



How does it feel knowing there is freedom to wrestle?  Explain



  1. In this scene, we also see God allowing Jacob to take some ownership and responsibility in this wrestling match. We know that God is our ultimate authority, yet here the theophany asks Jacob to let go of Him.  Jacob replies, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.” We also see this when the theophany asks Jacob for his name.  The name Jacob means deceiver. His name was best personified when he deceived his brother, Esau, whom he now must face.  Perhaps it is when Jacob is asked to let go, that becomes aware of his own need for resolution with his own deceitful nature.


Has there ever been a time in your life when you could not go one more step forward in your own skin?  If so, please share below



So often we are waiting on a blessing from God, however in this scene we see that Jacob is the one who is initiating asking for the blessing.

What are your thoughts about the relationship that exists between God’s blessings for us and our initiative in receiving the blessing?


  1. The third aspect of this encounter that is intriguing has to do with Jacob’s victory. Perhaps the most precious part in this scene takes place when Jacob finally takes responsibility for his name. His hip is out of socket, he is probably physically and emotionally exhausted from wrestling all night.  Yet, we see this beautiful moment when the theophany leans over Jacob and says, “Your name shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel, for you have striven with God and with men, and have prevailed” vs. 28.  In our human nature, one gains a victory through the defeat of another.  However, with Christ, it is our letting go of our own defeated identity that we are then able to wear His victory.

Not until we are ready to let go of our “self” are we truly able to accept the fullness of Who Christ is.

What about you Beloved, do you feel that you have ever truly admitted the whole truth about yourself to Christ?  If so, please share about it below.  If not, why not use this time and space to ask Him to help you.


Beloved, we began this week’s journey with an understanding that we are eternal creatures, on a camping trip journey through this earthly experience.

Before we can go further into this wedding ceremony, where we will truly understand our Oneness with Christ, we must first take responsibility for where we have been in our “self”. In early times, one’s camp meant more than just where they stayed. It was a place of identity. Your camp represented your people; your tribe.  The first step in fully understanding who you are as Christ’s Bride is to acknowledge where you are, whose camp you have belonged to. Romans 5:12 says, “Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned.”  Before Christ our tribe was sin.


Let’s reflect on this quote from our lesson in day 2, “you must become a complete individual on your own in order to have true oneness with your spouse”(Cloud and Townsend, pg91).

The very first marriage ever was officiated by God when He married His crown of creation and, in doing so, created the covenant of marriage.  It takes place in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”  Perhaps, Cloud and Townsend were right after all. “You must become a complete individual on your own in order to have true oneness with your spouse.”  Beloved, before you can fully embrace all that you are in Christ, you must first give up all you are in self.  “And the two shall become one flesh.”




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